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Bullying Ins and Outs

"Hassled in the Hall" shows how a bully makes Emma feel. She feels even more alone because her mom is away on a deployment. Bullying affects everyone -- those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness bullying. You have the power to stop bullying – just by using your voice! One of the best ways to prevent bullying is to report it to a trusted adult like your parent, teacher or coach.

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A Teen Can't Stop Checking The News

The constant fear for a deployed parent’s safety is one difference between military kids and their civilian peers. You may be fearful that your parent will be injured, or not come home from a deployment. Just as Carlos does, you may scan military-specific social media channels or websites to try to get every bit of information to reassure you that your parent is OK. Your fear may heighten when you see news reports about casualties in the area your parent is deployed. The desire to know your parent is safe is common, but it can become obsessive and affect your day-to-day life. You may not go out with friends for fear of missing a call from your mom or dad, or you may develop physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, poor appetite, or restless sleep. Remember, your mom or dad are a part of a military that takes every precaution to protect service members. They train to keep themselves and their team members safe.

What Can You Do? Use the mobile app Virtual Hope Box to help you cope. It contains simple tools to help you with relaxation, distraction and positive thinking by using personalized audio, video, pictures, games, mindfulness exercises, activity planning, inspirational quotes and coping statements.

My Mom Is Drinking, My Dad's Deployed

There is no doubt that Jeremy is in a difficult situation – for at least two reasons. First, his mom is drinking heavily and he’s unsure about what to do. Second, he is keeping a secret from his deployed dad because he doesn’t want to upset him. What can you do? Get help for yourself. You are not betraying your parent by seeking help. Keeping secrets can affect you every day. By acknowledging the problem, you are taking care of yourself. Most military installations offer counseling services to help your parent.

What Can You Do? Get help for yourself. You are not betraying your parent by seeking help.  Keeping the “secret” really affects you every day.  By acknowledging the problem you are taking care of yourself. You need to know that there are free counseling services available through the installation where your parent can get help.  You are not the one responsible for getting them into these programs. 

Helpful Tips & Resources

National Helpline for Alcohol and Drug Information:
1-800-662-HELP (4357)

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National HelpLine is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders.

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Revised: Wed, 11/27/2019 - 08:22