Finding people to befriend can be intimidating. Here are a few strategies to make it easier.14
Join a Group
You might need to make the first move to make friends. One way to do this is to join a group. You will want to determine if a group is giving off “closed” or “open” body language. Closed groups may not like someone new joining them, while open groups may encourage it.
- Closed group signs: standing or sitting close together; group members are exclusively focused on each other, likely all facing each other; there is a constant conversation with few pauses.
- Open group signs: standing or sitting somewhat apart; at times, they glance around the room or focus outside the group; the conversation has gaps in it; they seem to be talking about a general interest, not something overly personal or specific.
If a group seems to be open, wait for a break in the conversation and ask if you can join them. Wait for the conversation to resume or use an open-ended question to start a new discussion.