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Relationships Self-Assessment

It's not unusual for Service Members to feel lonely when they come home after a deployment, but it's important that you don't cut yourself off from family and friends, especially if you're feeling isolated or alone.

No one likes everybody, and not everyone needs to like you: all it takes is one or two people. Don't cut yourself off from the people in your life who care about you. You hurt them when you do, and you also hurt yourself.

The assessment below is provided for your convenience as a way to gain better insight on your relationships with others.

Welcome to the Friendship Assessment

Completing this questionnaire should take about five minutes. When you've completed the assessment, your results will be returned along with some resources you're sure to find helpful.

Because your privacy is of utmost importance, we do not collect any personal health information (PHI). For more information about the use of PHI and your personal privacy, please visit the Defense Privacy, Civil Liberties, and Transparency Division of the U.S. Department of Defense.

Important Note

While this tool can help you determine if you need additional help, only a health care professional can provide an accurate diagnosis.

Please check, "I Acknowledge" below to confirm that you have read and understand these statements as they have been presented to you.

During the past four weeks it has been easy to relate to others.

During the past four weeks I felt isolated from other people.

During the past four weeks I had someone to share my feelings with.

During the past four weeks I found it easy to get in touch with others when I needed to.

During the past four weeks, when with other people, I felt separate from them.

During the past four weeks I felt alone and friendless.

Your responses indicate several signs that relationship issues are causing you substantial stress.


If your relationships are getting in the way of work, school, or enjoying life:

  • Consult with your health care provider (or find a mental health therapist on the TRICARE website).
  • For help right now, visit the Veteran Crisis Line for text support or call 1-800-273-8255 (Press 1).
  • Learn about other health issues that often relate to relationships: stress, sleep, and substance use.

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