Boost Your Mood: 6 Tools for Reframing Negative Thoughts

You can use evidence-based thinking strategies to help improve mood and keep stress in check. Here are six ways to get started:

1. Be Specific

Overgeneralization is the belief that because something happened once it will broadly happen again and to a great degree. You have trouble sleeping this week and think, “I will never get a good night’s sleep.” Instead, consider replacing ‘never’ with more accurate words, such as ‘sometimes’ or ‘occasionally.' You can also ask yourself questions, like “since I’ve had bad nights at times in the past, is it possible that this, too, will pass?,” that introduce helpful evidence to combat the “always” and “never ever” thinking trap.

2. Manage your Mental Filter

Using a mental filter means focusing on the negative details of a situation and ignoring the positives. You have a great week-long vacation with your kids during which you raise your voice on a single occasion. Reflecting on the trip, you conclude, “I am a terrible parent.” Instead, challenge yourself to give equal weight to the skillful parenting you exhibited nearly the entire week.

3. Avoid Jumping to Conclusions

Jumping to conclusions is quickly making assumptions without all the facts. A friend has not returned your phone call and you think, “I must have done something to anger them.” Instead, allow yourself time to consider a wider range of realistic explanations, like “I sometimes neglect to return calls, not because I’m angry, but because I’m forgetful when busy.”

4. Beware of Magnification

Magnification is blowing negative situations out of proportion. Your boss shares with you an opportunity for improvement, and you think, “I'm awful at my job.” Instead, choose to put the feedback in perspective: “My boss knows that I care about doing a good job, and is invested in my learning and improvement.”

5. Drop the Labels

Labeling is attaching a general term that broadly describes yourself or others, often a negative word or phrase. You miss the doctor’s appointment you’d scheduled and think, “I'm an idiot.” Instead, try describing the specific behavior without the label: “I forgot about the appointment, but that doesn’t define me as a person. I can learn from this experience.” 

6. Relieve Yourself of Blame

Blaming is holding yourself or another responsible for a negative outcome. You and your spouse get in an argument, and you think, “It’s all your fault. You always make me angry!” Instead of assigning blame, try problem-solving (e.g., “what can we do to better understand one another?”) or a few minutes of mindfulness (e.g., this guided meditation).

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Support

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a type of treatment that addresses negative emotions through changes to thought and behavior. Work with your Behavioral Health Provider or try the following strategies on your own to increase your positive thinking:

  • Identify Your Negative Thoughts. Write down those you notice, and learn which forms you tend to use often. Experiment with alternative thoughts, like those in the examples above, and note how shifts in thinking can change how you feel.
  • Examine the Evidence. Ask yourself if your negative thoughts represent the ‘whole truth.' Try listing the evidence for and against your thoughts. Draft a new, balanced thought that uses all the available evidence.
  • Show Yourself Compassion. Notice when you’re putting yourself down and instead treat yourself in the same kind way that you would a friend.

The way you choose to think about an event in your life can influence how you feel and act. Challenge yourself to recognize and change negative thoughts to improve your mood and behavior.

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Sources:

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